Identifying with self

Selflessness

Think of all the roles you play in your life, from mother or father, provider, democrat or republican, atheist or christian. May be you are a student, doctor, lawyer, policeman, drug dealer, psychiatrist, software engineer, accountant, salesperson, American, Indian, Chinese, South African, Brazilian, Canadian, or Italian. Whatever you think you are you have over the years created this way of identifying who you are by one of these roles or associations. Our sense of self is often all wrapped up in what we do, the roles we play, and who we associate with. This sense of self is of course impermanent as life changes and results in changes in your roles.

Clinging to a sense of self and then creating an ego based on your roles makes for a very limiting existence. Are you really one of the roles you play everyday? I know people who have been crushed by the loss of a job or a spouse because their whole identity was wrapped up in that job or person. There sense of self was all about some external factor and their life seemed over when this association was broken. Carrying around some false sense of ego and self only limits your happiness and separates us as human beings. You are not what you do for a living, you are not a political party affiliation, you are not where your ancestors came from, and you are not a culmination of all the roles you play each day.

I was reading the Wise Heart by Jack Kornfield this morning and there was a quote by Dipama Barua “In my mind there are only three things: loving kindness, concentration, and peace”. These are the fruits of selflessness, not of someone burdened by the self. As you approach each day think about the times your behavior and thoughts are tied to this sense of self. Does this false sense of self result in happiness?

As someone who has lived too many years thinking that my sense of self is what I did for a living; I’ve begun to realize I was terribly wrong. The more you can separate the roles you must play from who you really are, the more joy and openness will permeate your life. Being selfless doesn’t mean you don’t have a sense of your own value as a human being, but it does mean you can now focus on thinking for yourself and you can be more open to valuing others.

Namaste

Taking control of your destiny

 

Napoleon Hill Destiny

I was reading the book “The 5 Second Rule” by Mel Robbins yesterday and was very excited by what I was learning as I continued to read one chapter after another. The book is really about following through on your best instincts. For instance you know you should exercise every morning, but sometimes you just don’t feel like it and the procrastination becomes a habit. Repeat this pattern 4 or 5 times and now you haven’t exercised in a week. In the 5 Second Rule, Mel Robbins explains how you can use a technique of counting backwards starting with 5 and then act. So instead of over thinking everything when we have a good idea we just invoke the 5 second rule and take action, otherwise we are likely to hesitate. The natural thing for us to do is to get a good idea, but think about it too much and then decide not to act upon it as we come up with reason after reason for not doing it.

A few months ago I signed up with a network marketing company called MyDailyChoice, which seemed like a great idea as they have great products, a sound marketing system, and an awesome compensation plan. Earlier in the week I had just about talked myself out of pursuing it any further after putting in almost no effort, but after reading the 5 Second Rule, I understand that I really do need to act and not talk myself out of pursuing something that could help me control my destiny. This simple little technique can also be used to help break bad habits and also as a way to do those things that you just find uncomfortable, but could lead to greater happiness and success.

No more procrastination, fear, and overthinking. Go with what your heart is telling you is the right thing to do. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 Take Action!

If you would like to know more about MyDailyChoice you can visit my Opportunity page.

Namaste

Deferring Happiness

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I’ve written about various ways to foster more happiness in your life including yoga, meditation, expressing gratitude, and caring for your physical health. All of these things are wonderful ways to be more happy, but we still are not as happy as we could be. Most of us are trapped in thinking that happiness is something we defer until we retire, buy that new house, find a better job, create our own business, have a more fulfilling relationship with our significant other, or any other number of things we feel will make us happy.

Unfortunately this deferring of happiness based on some future event is robbing us of it in the present. I’m not advocating that you abandon your dreams or stop pursuing your goals, but thinking that these things will make you happier is a fallacy. Don’t let the things you want in the future delay the opportunity to be happy today. Each moment that you impose these walls around yourself that are blocking you from being happy in the now are time wasted. That expensive new car, home, or pile of money will only provide temporary happiness; find a way to enjoy today for that is all you are guaranteed. No one is assured of tomorrow, no matter what your age or health. How many years will you have wasted waiting for happiness? If I only had more money, a better job, a more attractive spouse, a bigger house, I could be truly happy. This self deception is stealing away the days, leaving you less available to those around you. Pursue your goals, but make it your purpose to be happy during the journey not the manifestation of these things.

“If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Hear

Namaste

A few ways to be happier

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If you asked most people what their ultimate goal in life is, probably 90% would say to be happy. Why is being happy such an elusive state of mind for most of us? We struggle to make money, raise a family, buy houses and cars, and with all that we still don’t find a whole lot of happiness in our lives. Over the past 10 years I have tried a lot of things to increase my level of happiness and I wanted to share a few of those things that actually worked for me. So here are few things you might try:

  • If you’ve read posts on my blog, you know I’m a big fan of practicing yoga. It is not only physically challenging, but it also helps you become calmer and more mindful.
  • Meditation is great for clearing the mind, overcoming negative thoughts, and setting yourself up for a great day.
  • Adopt a positive philosophy like the Law of Attraction, Buddhism, or any spiritual practice. You will approach each interaction from a positive perspective instead of reacting negatively to situations. Choose something that works for you. I personally study the Law of Attraction and Buddhism, both have contributed to my piece of mind.
  • Quit caring about everything. I mean it, we all get wrapped up in stupid little things that won’t matter a week, a month, or a year from now. Make what and who you care about a select group, and adopt an attitude of I don’t give a shit about the rest.
  • Stop doing things you hate. I can’t tell you how many people I know go through their work day as a zombie, no smiling, no laughing, and it is all drudgery. You were not meant to live that way. Find a way to do something you can get excited about. Look for a way to transition to something better, and in the mean time do the things above and at least you will view the world in a positive way and get some enjoyment out of your current situation.
  • Last but not least, develop a gratitude practice. A truly grateful person will appreciate what they have and all the good things that are to come.

Namaste

 

 

 

 

The Law of Attraction – Money

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Can you use the law of attraction to become wealthy? Many people seeking more wealth are drawn to the law of attraction and there are countless videos and books on how you can use it to garner large sums of money. Of course the law of attraction can help you acquire all the money you want in your life, but like anything else that you are trying to attract it must be upper most in your mind. To attract wealth you must be thinking about wealth. You should not be thinking about the debt you have incurred and the lack of money you have in your life right now.

When you see that car or house you should be telling yourself I can afford it, because this is what puts the wheels in motion. You are asking, believing it can be yours, and feeling as if you have received it. If you want to accelerate the process then giving money away sends a signal to the universe that you have more than enough and it will find ways to return the favor making more money available to you. The wealthiest people in the world give away incredible amounts of money as they understand the good karma it creates.

Most of us have been told that we don’t need money to be happy, and that money if the root of all evil. We have also been told that to want more wealth is greedy and selfish. Listen all this is just a bunch of crap, perpetuated by people who don’t have any money. We have also been taught that money doesn’t come easy and that we need to struggle to acquire it. This is the wrong mindset and it sends out a frequency that impedes you acquiring the wealth you want. You spend more time worry about the how instead of feeling grateful for what you have and asking for what you want. Another misconception that is if we acquire great wealth we have taken this from someone else, again this is not true; there is plenty to go around. Replace those old tired philosophies with affirmations like:

  • I am a magnet for prosperity, happiness, and abundance!
  • I am healthy, wealthy, and wise!
  • Prosperity overflows in my life, I have everything in abundance!
  • I have more money than I know what to do with!

The most important lesson to be learned is that you must start with the premise that being happy puts you in a position to attract more of everything to you, and that includes wealth. Secondly you must decide (ask) that you want more money, believing that you already have it, and that it will come to you.

You attract what you think about, so focus on the feeling of having more wealth, not the lack of it. It all starts with you and your feelings about money. Remember the more you have, the more you can give to others. Most of us seeking more wealth do so with the desire to do more for our families, friends, and charities that we support. The creator did not put us on this earth to struggle in poverty.

Namaste

Previous law of attraction posts include:

Law of Attraction #1

Law of Attraction #2

The Law of Attraction #3

The Law of Attraction #4

The Law of Attraction #5

 

The Law of Attraction #5

 

 

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I just finished reading the chapter “Powerful Processes” in The Secret by Rhonda Bryne. This is the fifth post on the law of attraction that I am sharing with you on my blog. I have enjoyed reading The Secret and studying the law of attraction so much because it is beginning to have a profound impact on my own life and hopefully it will inspire you to begin your own study.

I have written other posts on gratitude because I always felt it was a key to happiness, but putting it into context on how it helps the law of attraction work for you is something new to me. Being grateful for what you have sets the stage in your mind to receive more; attracting more of what you are grateful for. When you are grateful you open up a world of possibilities for yourself and it changes the way you approach everything else. A good practice is to do this when you get out of bed in the morning. Be thankful for being alive, for the chance to enjoy another day, to be happy, and to contribute something to this world. I know this sounds simplistic, but if you will start your day with some type of gratitude practice you set the stage for a positive outcome and this makes you aware of things you can be thankful for throughout the day. As the day progresses you are viewing the world as events or things that you are grateful for and enjoy. Here are a few examples of what happens when you embrace a grateful attitude:

  • My drive into work was easy today.
  • My lunch was very good, the broccoli was crisp and not overcooked.
  • The meeting I attended with a colleague at work was very productive and we came to agreement on some key ways to improve the process we were developing.
  • I enjoyed the walk in the sunshine today, which gave me some time to think and a bit of exercise.
  • I am very grateful that my children get along with each other so well. It gives me great pleasure to see them talking and laughing together.
  • When I see my 1 year old granddaughter I am filled with joy and I can’t stop smiling.

A grateful practice will change the way you look at the world and this sets things in motion for the universe to respond to your wishes and give  you more to be grateful for.

Another process that was explained in this chapter was the use of visualization. For those not familiar with this technique, you create pictures of what you want in your mind. This might be some thing, relationship, or really just about anything you are asking for. For visualization to work you must believe you already have it from the perspective about how you feel about possessing it. Let’s say you would like new house on 5 acres of land with a pond or lake on it. Visualize what it would look like when you open the door or look out your window at the water or mountains. Visualize the style of the house, the number of bedrooms, bathrooms, kitchen, living areas, and the type of flooring and finishes. When you visualize think about what it feels like owning this property. Above all don’t worry about how you will acquire this home, or engage any doubts about it being yours.

Many people use vision boards and post pictures of what they want in their office or a room in the house that they use everyday. The vision board will inspire you every day to dream and visualize in your mind what you want from the universe. As these things are manifested and received, you can pull them down and put new ones in their place.

A grateful attitude and the ability to visualize what you want will take you far, and most of all you will be a happier person.

Note: I use an Android app called Bliss from positive psychology, which reminds me every morning to enter in what I am grateful for. Sometimes it is fun to just scroll through what you entered into the app to remind yourself of all the things you were grateful for over time. This app is also available for Apple phones

Namaste

Previous law of attraction posts include:

Law of Attraction #1

Law of Attraction #2

The Law of Attraction #3

The Law of Attraction #4

 

The Law of Attraction #4

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If you have read any of my previous posts on the law of attraction you know that I am reading The Secret by Rhonda Bryne. In the chapter “How to use the law of attraction” a three stop process is revealed:

  1. Ask
  2. Believe
  3. Receive

Seems pretty simple doesn’t it, but let’s delve into this a bit more.

Asking means to be clear about what you want. Don’t send mixed signals here, just think about what you want, no strings attached, no limitations. Once you have asked let it be, you don’t need to ask again and again.

When we talk about believing we mean thinking as if you already received it. This is the step where you are creating a frequency that helps to manifest it. This means thinking as if you already have it. You might want to write down what you are asking for in the present tense. An example might be something like this “I really enjoy sharing my business opportunity with others, helping them become financially independent”. The key is to believe you already have it.

Receiving is more about feeling how it will be when what you are asking for has manifested. Think about it for a minute, you are creating the feeling of having it and the joy associated with it. Don’t destroy the good frequency you are creating by wondering when or how it will arrive, this only creates self doubt and negates the process.

It is important that you do not introduce an over analytical approach that puts time limits on when what you want is actually manifested. It is enough that you believe that it is happening and you feel good about it. Don’t look for reasons why you will not have it because the law of attraction will give you what you are thinking about. If you are clear about what you want, believe it is yours and that you received it the universe will make it happen. This will also cause your actions to be in line with your thoughts.

If you need proof that the law of attraction works then start with something small. Let’s say you want to develop a meditation practice. You might start out by saying “I really enjoy my daily meditation practice, which has provided so much clarity and peace of mind and is having a profound impact on all areas of my life”. Write this down where you can see it and think about how it can change your life. Without much effort you will be studying about the different kinds of meditation practices, making time for it in the morning or at night, and before long what you asked for and believed you received is now a habit.

Keep it simple, don’t over think things, don’t worry about the how, instead focus on feeling good about what you are asking for and you will receive it. Remember we have spent our lives being told to be realistic, to take safe route, and we are filled with self doubt, created by past experience and thoughts.

Use the law of attraction to change all that and discard your baggage it is a new day.

Namaste

 

Previous law of attraction posts include:

Law of Attraction #1

Law of Attraction #2

The Law of Attraction #3