Deferring Happiness

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I’ve written about various ways to foster more happiness in your life including yoga, meditation, expressing gratitude, and caring for your physical health. All of these things are wonderful ways to be more happy, but we still are not as happy as we could be. Most of us are trapped in thinking that happiness is something we defer until we retire, buy that new house, find a better job, create our own business, have a more fulfilling relationship with our significant other, or any other number of things we feel will make us happy.

Unfortunately this deferring of happiness based on some future event is robbing us of it in the present. I’m not advocating that you abandon your dreams or stop pursuing your goals, but thinking that these things will make you happier is a fallacy. Don’t let the things you want in the future delay the opportunity to be happy today. Each moment that you impose these walls around yourself that are blocking you from being happy in the now are time wasted. That expensive new car, home, or pile of money will only provide temporary happiness; find a way to enjoy today for that is all you are guaranteed. No one is assured of tomorrow, no matter what your age or health. How many years will you have wasted waiting for happiness? If I only had more money, a better job, a more attractive spouse, a bigger house, I could be truly happy. This self deception is stealing away the days, leaving you less available to those around you. Pursue your goals, but make it your purpose to be happy during the journey not the manifestation of these things.

“If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present.”
― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Hear

Namaste

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A few ways to be happier

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If you asked most people what their ultimate goal in life is, probably 90% would say to be happy. Why is being happy such an elusive state of mind for most of us? We struggle to make money, raise a family, buy houses and cars, and with all that we still don’t find a whole lot of happiness in our lives. Over the past 10 years I have tried a lot of things to increase my level of happiness and I wanted to share a few of those things that actually worked for me. So here are few things you might try:

  • If you’ve read posts on my blog, you know I’m a big fan of practicing yoga. It is not only physically challenging, but it also helps you become calmer and more mindful.
  • Meditation is great for clearing the mind, overcoming negative thoughts, and setting yourself up for a great day.
  • Adopt a positive philosophy like the Law of Attraction, Buddhism, or any spiritual practice. You will approach each interaction from a positive perspective instead of reacting negatively to situations. Choose something that works for you. I personally study the Law of Attraction and Buddhism, both have contributed to my piece of mind.
  • Quit caring about everything. I mean it, we all get wrapped up in stupid little things that won’t matter a week, a month, or a year from now. Make what and who you care about a select group, and adopt an attitude of I don’t give a shit about the rest.
  • Stop doing things you hate. I can’t tell you how many people I know go through their work day as a zombie, no smiling, no laughing, and it is all drudgery. You were not meant to live that way. Find a way to do something you can get excited about. Look for a way to transition to something better, and in the mean time do the things above and at least you will view the world in a positive way and get some enjoyment out of your current situation.
  • Last but not least, develop a gratitude practice. A truly grateful person will appreciate what they have and all the good things that are to come.

Namaste

 

 

 

 

The Law of Attraction #5

 

 

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I just finished reading the chapter “Powerful Processes” in The Secret by Rhonda Bryne. This is the fifth post on the law of attraction that I am sharing with you on my blog. I have enjoyed reading The Secret and studying the law of attraction so much because it is beginning to have a profound impact on my own life and hopefully it will inspire you to begin your own study.

I have written other posts on gratitude because I always felt it was a key to happiness, but putting it into context on how it helps the law of attraction work for you is something new to me. Being grateful for what you have sets the stage in your mind to receive more; attracting more of what you are grateful for. When you are grateful you open up a world of possibilities for yourself and it changes the way you approach everything else. A good practice is to do this when you get out of bed in the morning. Be thankful for being alive, for the chance to enjoy another day, to be happy, and to contribute something to this world. I know this sounds simplistic, but if you will start your day with some type of gratitude practice you set the stage for a positive outcome and this makes you aware of things you can be thankful for throughout the day. As the day progresses you are viewing the world as events or things that you are grateful for and enjoy. Here are a few examples of what happens when you embrace a grateful attitude:

  • My drive into work was easy today.
  • My lunch was very good, the broccoli was crisp and not overcooked.
  • The meeting I attended with a colleague at work was very productive and we came to agreement on some key ways to improve the process we were developing.
  • I enjoyed the walk in the sunshine today, which gave me some time to think and a bit of exercise.
  • I am very grateful that my children get along with each other so well. It gives me great pleasure to see them talking and laughing together.
  • When I see my 1 year old granddaughter I am filled with joy and I can’t stop smiling.

A grateful practice will change the way you look at the world and this sets things in motion for the universe to respond to your wishes and give  you more to be grateful for.

Another process that was explained in this chapter was the use of visualization. For those not familiar with this technique, you create pictures of what you want in your mind. This might be some thing, relationship, or really just about anything you are asking for. For visualization to work you must believe you already have it from the perspective about how you feel about possessing it. Let’s say you would like new house on 5 acres of land with a pond or lake on it. Visualize what it would look like when you open the door or look out your window at the water or mountains. Visualize the style of the house, the number of bedrooms, bathrooms, kitchen, living areas, and the type of flooring and finishes. When you visualize think about what it feels like owning this property. Above all don’t worry about how you will acquire this home, or engage any doubts about it being yours.

Many people use vision boards and post pictures of what they want in their office or a room in the house that they use everyday. The vision board will inspire you every day to dream and visualize in your mind what you want from the universe. As these things are manifested and received, you can pull them down and put new ones in their place.

A grateful attitude and the ability to visualize what you want will take you far, and most of all you will be a happier person.

Note: I use an Android app called Bliss from positive psychology, which reminds me every morning to enter in what I am grateful for. Sometimes it is fun to just scroll through what you entered into the app to remind yourself of all the things you were grateful for over time. This app is also available for Apple phones

Namaste

Previous law of attraction posts include:

Law of Attraction #1

Law of Attraction #2

The Law of Attraction #3

The Law of Attraction #4