Being the over planning person that I am, I scheduled Monday through Saturday mornings for yoga and meditation. Yes I actually created an appointment in Outlook which of course syncs with my phone, but there is one problem today is Wednesday and haven’t hit the mat yet this week. So I have managed to make some sort of excuse three days in a row. Maybe I just have an issue with mornings, but I’m not sure that is the issue. Well if this is about excuses then early in the morning could qualify as one. Here is the definition I found of excuse used as a noun:
a reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify a fault or offense.
“there can be no possible excuse for any further delay”
The above definition best describes how I have justified not pursuing goals by providing some reason or explanation put forward to defend or justify my behavior. Does any of this sound familiar? Make great plans and then fail to execute, and come up with various excuses which of course you know are pretty much bullshit. So what do we do about this common phenomena?
- Realize you are doing it. This is generally pretty easy because the excuses are accompanied by periods of guilt and self loathing.
- Once we realize it, then stop it! Move on with your plan and stop using the excuse.
- Analyze your excuse and determine if the goal was unreasonable or you were not committed to it.
- If after you have analyzed the excuse and the goal then decide if the goal is worth the effort and move on.
Remember that most excuses are a way to avoid something that is uncomfortable, and that would probably be enjoyable once you actually got started. Examples of this might include getting out of the door to go running, attending a party, and yes performing your yoga practice. All three of these are perfect examples of activities that once you start them you find they are very enjoyable, but often your mind says I don’t really want to do it. So this hesitancy to move forward is probably a trigger for creating an excuse, so remember if there is some minor discomfort associated with an activity then push forward and don’t allow yourself to make an excuse.
The world is filled with people that have failed to achieve their dreams and goals as they fell prey to their favorite excuses.